When you're a Stepmom...{AluraWayne Photography Nashville, TN Lifestyle Family Photographer}

When you dream about becoming a mother, you plan a registry. You go to Pinterest and pin all sorts of nursery photos. You write a birth plan. You prepare as best you can for many different outcomes for your labor and delivery. You buy tiny diapers that look like they'd only fit a babydoll. You wonder if you need warmers or pacifiers or swaddle blankets or whether you want a bucket seat or an all in one to start...You dream about the day you'll have your newborn baby in your arms for the very first time. And when you do, your heart explodes with a force of love you never thought possible. A love that no amount of preparation ever truly prepares you for. You're a MOTHER. The role of a lifetime. Recognized by Hallmark cards every year, revered in scripture and history books, praised and lauded by generation after generation.

When you become a stepmother, love works in a different direction. It is one that grows quietly through trust and time.

Our four beautiful children: Ayden, Elowen, Madeline, and Tilden.

Our four beautiful children: Ayden, Elowen, Madeline, and Tilden.

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nashville family lifestyle photographer alurawayne photography
nashville family lifestyle photographer alurawayne photography

When you become a stepmom, you are introduced to children birthed by another woman who already loves them very much. Your love starts like a seed, planted in a garden you're not too sure how to tend at first. But you try hard to water it the best you can. The best you know how. You take the love you're starting to grow and nurture it carefully and respectfully. You watch this little bud shoot up out of rocky soil, transplanted into your garden perhaps against the general direction of what this seed started out with, but it grows nonetheless...and it starts to flourish under your care. The pride you feel as you watch it blossom is unparalleled.

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When you're a stepmom, you love with a love that is just as fierce and protective as a biological mother's love. But you also love with a love that acknowledges when it needs to be a supporting character on stage, and when it needs to step into the wings and cheer from the sidelines. A stepmother's love is often a love from the shadows. Waiting for the moments when you're needed, and playing each part- no matter how small- with the enthusiasm and gusto generally reserved for a leading role. You're not always seen. But you're there. 

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The small moments build over time. Your helping hands, not afraid to get dirty...your love for their father that they watch with curious, learning eyes...your careful inventory of their items so nothing gets misplaced between homes...your peanut butter and jelly sandwiches without crusts and baby carrots cut smaller into fourths, and ice cream sundae bars with a dozen options for toppings and whipped cream that you happily spray into giggling mouths...your pitches of baseballs that aren't quite right but still make contact with their eager bats, and slowed steps towards homeplate so they make a homerun...your shared love of nature as you splash around in creeks and hunt for small critters to scoop up and show off to dad...your fishing trips where you hand over your pole with the big bites so they can reel in the good ones...each brick is laid to make the sturdy foundation of the love you pour into your children.

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Sometimes I've let fear take hold of my heart with the "what ifs". Sometimes love hurts, like today,  as I said goodbye after a long summer break with all four of our children together and felt my heart shatter into a million pieces as the truck pulled out of the driveway and left an empty house for this stepmama to cry in, all alone.

I have two biological children and two stepchildren. I am a proud mother of four. I never expected this life as a little girl so long ago, envisioning a future with the stereotypical white picket fence. But my gosh am I lucky to have so much to love, and so much to miss...and so very much to always look forward to.

 

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AluraWayne Photography specializes in rich, bold, timeless maternity, birth, newborn and family photography in Nashville, TN and surrounding areas (Brentwood | Nolensville | Smyrna | Murfreesboro | Franklin | and beyond).

To inquire about planning your own session, please look at our options for our popular Birth Experience which includes a combination of maternity, birth, and newborn packages. For individual session details, please consider our maternity, newborn, or family sessions.

 

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When your youngest is your last...{Nashville, TN Lifestyle Photographer AluraWayne Photography}

When your youngest is your very last, every tiny thing that becomes a moment of growth or change becomes a permanent goodbye to all those moments for good. There are none of these moments waiting to repeat themselves in future children. These moments are it. These are the last.

 

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Nashville TN Lifestyle Photographer AluraWayne Photography

One of those moments for me this morning was when our youngest asked for her "fwoot woops" (gosh I'm really going to miss the way she speaks!). But this time not just dry in a bowl, so she can snuggle with me on the couch, which has been our routine with her cereal or toast with "bwutter" or "eggies" upon request each past morning...

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Nashville TN Photographer AluraWayne Photography

She wanted it with milk and a spoon. Because mommy, I'm a big girl.

 

One of many moments that seem so ordinary. But they are extraordinary to me. My little girl is growing up, and it feels so much faster than her three siblings before her.

She's my baby. She still climbs in my lap for snuggles. She still needs me when she wakes up scared in the night. She still holds my hand, still gives me kisses.

"I'll love you forever, I'll like you for always, as long as I'm living, my baby you'll be"- we love that book! And all of my children are my babies forever. Even when I can't hold their hand. Or kiss their boo-boos. Or snuggle on the couch for no reason.

But gosh I'm soaking up all of those so hard with this baby. My last baby. Because those lasts sure sneak up...you just never know when their coming. Each last of a childhood.

 

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Brentwood, TN Maternity Session (Nashville, TN Birth Photographer)

Sometimes taking a beautiful photo feels effortless...and that was definitely the case with Angela. She absolutely glows in her pregnancy and her family is the SWEETEST! I can't wait to photograph them again as a family of four... and as always, I can't wait to document this baby's birth!!!

 

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AluraWayne Photography specializes in rich, bold, timeless maternity, birth, newborn and family photography in Nashville, TN and surrounding areas (Brentwood | Nolensville | Smyrna | Murfreesboro | Franklin | and beyond).

To inquire about planning your own session, please look at our options for our popular Birth Experience which includes a combination of maternity, birth, and newborn packages. For individual session details, please consider our maternity, newborn, or family sessions.

 

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Family Documentary- School Days (Nashville, TN Photographer)

As my children have gotten older I've felt more and more drawn to capture the real life moments...from bath time, to playing together, to cooking, to pillow fights, to fort building and even cleaning together...I want to remember the little moments. The moments that make us "us" every day. I don't want to concentrate on perfection in every photograph, or styling everything just right- I want reality remembered when we look back on these times. There is definitely a special place in my heart for a well styled photo session with my kiddos, but I want to make sure I have these memories too.

One of my favorite moments during the week is when our oldest daughter (9) comes home on the bus from school- our youngest (2) starts to squeal and jump and run for the door to greet "sissy"!

 

There is nothing like the love between sisters!!

 

AluraWayne Photography specializes in rich, bold, timeless maternity, birth, newborn and family photography in Nashville, TN and surrounding areas (Brentwood | Nolensville | Smyrna | Murfreesboro | Franklin | and beyond).

To inquire about planning your own session, please look at our options for our popular Birth Experience which includes a combination of maternity, birth, and newborn packages. For individual session details, please consider our maternity, newborn, or family sessions.

 

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Birth Session...Baby and Co. (Nashville, TN Birth Photography)

Leave it to a photographer's baby to make her grand entrance not only on her due date, but as the sun rose so beautifully in the sky to give us great light for her photos! From start to finish this sweet babe's arrival was peaceful and perfect. We couldn't have asked for a more beautiful experience!

 

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AluraWayne Photography specializes in rich, bold, timeless maternity, birth, newborn and family photography in Nashville, TN and surrounding areas (Brentwood | Nolensville | Smyrna | Murfreesboro | Franklin | and beyond).

To inquire about planning your own session, please look at our options for our popular Birth Experience which includes a combination of maternity, birth, and newborn packages. For individual session details, please consider our maternity, newborn, or family sessions.

 

Nashville Maternity Photographers | Nashville Birth Photographers | Nashville Newborn Photographers | Nashville Family Photographers |Middle TN Birth Photographer |Middle TN Family Photographer | Middle TN Maternity Photographer | Nashville Baby Photographer | AluraWayne Photography